The entrepreneur J. R. Storment is stirring the consciences of many parents with a sledgehammer publication on your LinkedIn profile in the reflects on the time that parents spend with their children and the time they devote to the job after the sudden death of one of their children of 8 years.
" Embrace your children , " advises Storment to all the parents that read your text. It also tells them: " don't work too. You'll regret to have invested that time in other tasks, once you already do not have. I suppose that you are meeting with many people with which you work. Do you have regularly scheduled those appointments with your children? If there is any lesson to draw from this, is to remind others (and myself) that not lost the things that matter ".
J. R. Storment and his wife Jessica were parents eight years ago of twins . Just when you were born little Oliver and Wiley, he co-founded his company. Since then, acknowledges that he had not taken more than one free week of vacation.
This pace of life was disrupted last August when Wiley died suddenly . It all started with a call from his wife. "My wife and I have an agreement: when one of the two calls, the other answers," explains Storment. So the businessman replied, in the middle of a meeting, at the call of his woman. "His response was cold and immediate: J. R., Wiley is dead," he said. What he discovered when he went to his room to wake him.
he Came out of the office, direct-to-home and when he arrived he met with the emergency services and police. "I ran directly towards the room shared by the boys but the agents I blocked the way," he recalls. The researchers were examining the scene and the medical examiner was doing his job."I Suppose that you are meeting with many people with which you work. Do you have regularly scheduled those appointments with your children?"
"they Spent more than two painful hours before he could see my son," he explains. Once completed, allowed him to spend the fourth. Wiley, 8 years old, I was in bed lying down, as if to continue sleeping. "I laid down next to him on the bed, and loved him, I grabbed the hand and repeated: 'What happened, friend? What happened?'. We stayed with him for about 30 minutes and will toy with the hair before they came back with a stretcher to take it away", he writes.
The coroner estimated that the small had died about 8-10 hours from that his mother to wake him up, so that Wiley died in the early hours of the night.Epilepsy
The small died by a the sudden, unexpected death in epilepsy (SUDEP). "Last year -recalls Storment -, Wiley was diagnosed with a mild form of epilepsy called infantile epilepsy benign, which is common in children between the ages of 8 and 13 years. It is called 'benign' because it usually resolves itself in adolescence. To Wiley only we've seen him suffer a seizure. And it was done about 9 months," he explains.
All the pediatricians and neurologists who saw him assured the family that there was nothing to worry about. "He had the 'best' type of epilepsy, and had to let it run its course," he writes, but ensures that no one told them that there was a sudden, unexpected death in epilepsy.
"it Is unpredictable and irreversible once it starts. May be related to a seizure, but many times the brain simply shuts down," explains the entrepreneur. is only affected 1 out of every 4,500 children with epilepsy. "Sometimes forms part of the statistic," writes Storment.
" The previous afternoon was normal , " said the parent. Wiley was doing well and had a good evening surrounded by friends who came home for dinner and saw the trampoline that had been purchased weeks before. Even that same night, was Storment who will lay down and served him or her when, minutes later, he woke up and said to him: "Dad, I can not sleep".a sudden, unexpected death from epilepsy affects 1 out of every 4,500 children. "Sometimes forms part of the statistic," writes Storment
"You heard the music of the feast of a neighbor. I accompanied him back to his room and I closed all the windows. He said that that was better. We had another quick hug. Then I went to bed to always. The next morning I woke up. I had several meetings in a row, I took a trip, I attended several calls and returned to my office. None of that seems to me so important now. I left that morning without saying goodbye or looking at the guys," he writes.
the Fruit of his experience, this father advises families prefer family life to the work. And although he recognizes that it has been raised not to return to work, he believes that "work is love made visible" (Kahlil Gibran). But he reflects: " The work needs to have a balance that I've rarely lived . It is a balance that allows us to offer our gifts to the world, but not at the expense of ourselves and the family."
And by way of example, account: "As I sat writing this publication, my living child, Oliver, came to me for permission to play the console. Instead of saying the usual 'no', I stopped writing and asked if I could play with him. I was happily surprised by my answer and we connect in a way that before I would have lost. The little things matter. is The positive side of this tragedy is that I have improved the relationship I have with him "."The work needs to have a balance that I have rarely experienced. It is a balance that allows us to offer our gifts to the world, but not at the expense of ourselves and the family,"
Thus, the entrepreneur ends his text by throwing out a message to those who will read: " I Hope that from this tragedy to reconsider how priorizas your own time ".
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