to Carry a child for the first time to the "store", as it is commonly referred to as nursery schools, generated a lot of concern, especially in first-time parents to those who supposed to the first real separation of your baby in the hands of people, even professionals, are unknown. It is a change of stage for both parents and children, must have their time of adaptation. A period that will cost more or less overcome, but that there is be prepared for it to be as bearable as possible.
common sense is often the best ally; however, there are a number of aspects that should be taken into account for this "separation" is as least painful as possible. For this reason, Fernanda Morales , director of the School Child Nemomarlín Paseo de la Habana, explains what is exactly what not to do when the parents leave for the first time to your child in the "save as". These are some of their recommendations:
—do Not expect the same day to tell him "honey, today we will take you to a "school" for you to be with other children". According to Fernanda Morales is very important to go preparing the ground and count to small in the next days you will meet your teacher and other children in a school where you are going to play a lot and pass it phenomenal. The improvisation is not so good because you can get scared a lot when they enter a class without knowing what's going to happen there.
—Raising the child with the correct time to take you to the center. Some parents think that, in this way, the child will just have time to realize where you are going. "If you are in a hurry, this stress is transmitted to the child and it will generate anxiety from the first time —pointing Moral. The most convenient is to boost with time in advance enough to make the breakfast time and for them to be as quiet as possible."
—Not to prolong the goodbyes. when you reach The centre it is better to give a kiss of farewell to the child and to always remember that in a little while, "we will come to you for that can tell us what a great time you've spent". It is a good way of giving security that he will return to see her parents.
—Although tempting, do not go to the father, the mother, the grandparents... to take you the first day. It is much better that parents go alone and, even better, only one of them for the farewell not elongate and more bearable. Have to give a kiss to all your family members can lengthen the time of the tension of separation.
—to the extent possible, not to cry in front of the child when it comes to the nursery school. "Doing so may cause you to feel fear and mistrust, because they do not understand that their parents have tears in their eyes and it will get worse", points out Morales.
—byes at the time of the transfer of the infant school should not wing rgarse , should be very quick. The parents have an agenda where they can see all that he has done to his son so it is recommended that you read it and, if you have any doubt, consult.
—Not obsessed and talk all day about their new experience with the small, the neighbors, grandparents... "it Is better to take it naturally, ask you something after the output of the center and to remind you that we are happy to have new friends, learn more games...".
in Addition, Fernanda Morales recommends that parents not obsesionen with the period of adaptation because "in my ten years of career I have not seen or a child that does not fit; that yes, some do so before and the other after in terms of the relationship of attachment they have with their parents. Generally, these are the parents who bear the worst of this period of separation, but you must know that, although your child cry in the farewell, as they enter the classroom they fail to do so and quickly get distracted and play with other children."
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