September is already here and has come to that time in the tap to return to the routine . No one is spared, both small and older "suffer" the end of summer and the long days of vacation. With the arrival of the ninth month of the year, comes to life one of the greatest fears of parents: children do not adapt easily to the classroom.
why many children cry when parents leave in the school to go home or from your place of work? Manuel Antonio Fernández, better known as The pediatric neurologist, has it clear: "Every time I hear a mother say her son does not want to go to school comes to mind, a reasoning, very simple: "If we put ourselves for a moment on his skin when he comes into class for the first time, we will understand that it is something totally new for him"".
Start a new job, which is not known absolutely nothing, and where not known to anyone, it would be for an adult, a feeling like. "In the end, the human being is a friend of the routines and the enemy of the unexpected taxes. is The refusal to go to school is the norm l, in general terms. Despite this, the situation is different according to the age. There are cases in which we must be alert", apostille.Periods of adaptation, advantages and disadvantages
Holding on to the hand of their parents and with tears falling down their cheeks, and tore off many school the course. For many there was the "back to school", it was the first time he's trodden in your life. After having crossed the threshold of the class and to have found its place among the small tables that fill it up, it was time to face one of the steps that can be more complicated s : the adaptation.
"The process of adaptation to the nursery of a child of six months has nothing to do with the one of two years," says the specialist. "In addition, there are usually no indications to parents on how to act in these cases or processes of adaptation effective, beyond begin shortly and extend".
Among the advantages of this period is a greater ease to the changes routine on the part of the family as part of the child. In addition, caregivers learn progressively the tastes, the needs and the peculiarities of each one of the students that fill life their respective classrooms.
For its part, the drawbacks of these times of adaptation is found in the duration of the first few days of class can be very short to adapt to the changes of habits and routines that brings about the month of September.The children cry for fear of the unknown
"it is All due to the fear of the unknown" , explains Fernández. "It is all due to the fact of leaving of a security situation in which everything is predictable for them."
To spend the first moments of uncertainty and learn about what happens in reality, the child calms down, because everything becomes predictable for them. So are most of them, though not all. Once having overcome the first sensation of danger the face of the unknown, he begins to feel safe and calm.
to this type of situation the parents should trust the school and talk with your child to familiarize yourself with what is new to him. In this aspect it is very important not to lie. You are going to have a good time playing and learning with all their peers and, at the end of the day, the moment will come to go home with their parents.
The changes involve introducing into our routine with something new or different, and in occasions, the novelty, far from seem to be something thought-provoking, generates uncertainty. With the smaller the same thing happens and the parents have in their hands the key to help forebear best this new situation.What should I do as a parent?
"The best way to avoid it is to prevent with a process of assimilation progressive ," said the expert. If it still is the case, it is important that kids see how the parents share time and activities with educators from the center making games in common to be normalizing the situation and seeing it as normal.
Worry about and feel bad for them, are two actions that should be avoided. is The children sense the stress with great ease and this has a negative impact on them.
In the case of the cries do not cease when they go to school, Fernandez recommended that you go to school to analyze with the teachers, the routines and habits that follows the child in their day-to-day. Watching carefully will be able to find what it is that makes the small feel bad in the school, and what triggers their response.
Value the contact with other students outside of the facility to decrease the friction factors within and use positive reinforcement with toys or objects that are enjoyable will help you to increase your well-being and decrease their anxiety in the face of this change in his life.
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