How do I tell my child?: Why we argue on holiday sometimes more than at home

Actually, everything is beautiful. The sea glistens in the sun, the mountain glow meadows lush and green. In the holidays all the stress of everyday life falls away from us. There are no teachers that want something from us, no boss to annoy. Nevertheless, it happens quite often that we argue in the holiday. Sometimes even more than at home. Why is it that we go faster in the air, when actually, everything is relaxed?

Anke Schipp

editor in the Department "life," the Frankfurt General Sunday newspaper.

The especially with the expectations. Just because you don't go so often the case in vacation, and this vacation then, as well as the advertising suggests, the best time to be in the year, we are under the particular pressure that everything has to be perfect. But what if you have to wait at Check-in at the airport for hours in the queue? Or on the highway in sweltering heat in a traffic jam is? If the property is located on a noisy street? If it is for days of rain? Then it can go very quickly, that in the case of children, or parents, or all together, the mood drops and the like in a heat thunderstorm, the tension in a heated argument as it discharges.

in Addition, children and adults often have different interests. One might prefer to go swimming, the other on a trip. If you do not find each other, there is noise. You have to be aware that life in the holidays is different than in everyday life – and fraught with conflicts. When else squats with the parents twenty-four hours of the day to each other? Usually this comes in the holiday to the fore, wasunter the surface, seething and in everyday life to just go under. The power struggles between the parents or competition among brothers and sisters. And very quickly, you are stuck in a vicious circle: Because they are arguing, the holiday is still stupid, even though he's supposed to be so beautiful.

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that's Why you have to be over a few things Clear. The first is that Arguing is not bad. It is one of these, as at home. Only if there is continuous strife, what's wrong. Important accurate arrangements in the family are therefore, if possible, before you leave. Together you should say that, for example, who expects what from the holidays and who want to do something necessarily. Maybe you can wish for any one day, which will be jointly undertaken. It is important that you negotiate compromises and the needs of others be accepted. If one has no desire for the Museum, he must call maybe once in a while. The parents go on a different day on the summer toboggan run.

An illustrated selection of articles from our column "How do I tell my child?" is at Reclam published.

And if you absolutely must, you say: Today we're doing something separate. The younger children go into care and the older kids to the hotel pool, while the parents are Hiking or going to the Museum. At the dinner, then each of his experiences to tell – without a fight.