Forgive and alien in love – what to do? View

My husband (43) and I (39) have been married for over ten years and we have a son. Recently I met a well-Known of them sooner. We had it good and now we understand each other even better. I'm happy in my relationship, I feel attracted to but one from the other. I don't understand my feelings and don't know what to do. Maya

love Maya

Unfortunately, little is spoken about it, how often it occurs and how normal it is that married people fall in love. The result is that Sufferers stay with your experiences, mostly alone, and tormenting questions to be crushed. You are asking yourself exactly as you are, why you have these feelings, what they mean for the existing relationship, and, not infrequently, also, how you you as soon as possible can Park.

An important step in dealing with emotions or unpleasant thoughts is that you allows you to simple change. You should follow neither compulsively pushing away yet you doggedly. Because both the feelings and thoughts fired only, without that you can really start something with them.

Try not to slip into the role of a fairly neutral observer, even if that is not easy. Maybe you can take from this more relaxed Position that meetings, like the one with your Known life. They show that we can have to different people, a special connection, and they don't force you to put your world upside down.

Should you in this process, remember, that in your current life, something should fit, then you still have many options to change quiet a bit. You are, therefore, not simply between one man or the other, but right in the middle of your life, you can make it active and aware.

You have a question about the topics of Sex, love and relationship? Write me a Mail on caroline@blick.ch Your Mail goes directly to me and will be treated as confidential.

Depending on how many emails arrive just in the consulting, it may take a while until I can reply to you. I give me trouble to answer all questions.

Your question can be found here in the guide published. the protecting your identity I change the information that would make it possible to identify you clearly.

Describe to me what your Problem is. Write, how it happened and what you tried to do, to change it. Give me also some information about your Person and your current life situation.