Relationship column: Why we don't pull together

Corona was a brand of beer that had my father sometimes in the basement, and Networking, something for which you needed no Internet connection when I discovered

Relationship column: Why we don't pull together

Corona was a brand of beer that had my father sometimes in the basement, and Networking, something for which you needed no Internet connection when I discovered a pattern. I was standing next to a white behussten table and led with a Person probably the third common conversation of our lives. We were the same age, and similar to internships being tested, that's why we came immediately on the Small-Talk topic in such situations: The apartment search. Now, I don't care whether you are in Berlin, Frankfurt, Freiburg or Munich, even in Leipzig, and Gießen you can make with complaints about high land prices and outrageous landlord nothing wrong.

Sarah Obertreis

editor in the economy.

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so I said to this Person: "My friend is looking for a flat in Frankfurt. This is really unbelievable how much prices have risen in the last two years.“ The Person nodded, first in the affirmative, paused, and looked at me confused. "Your friend?" she asked. "Yes," said I, and the many conversations of the past weeks were in my head, slowly, to a large. "But will you not move in together?", the Person asked, can I call in this Moment, really only with a lot of good will, as well-Known.

the life of A fast change in my private, I thought. To wipe the skeptical view of the Person as quickly as possible from your face, I said instead: We have of course spoken about it, and would continue to do so, but my apartment was too small for the both of us, we had already found, and the move worthwhile for me, if I knew I could no longer earn in this city, my money; in addition, it is well known, difficult for the one in the furnished apartment to the other to collect. "Ah, Yes, okay," replied my counterpart and began to nod again now.

We'll be just like being alone

Meanwhile, I can't the reasons why I'm moving in with my friend, by heart. I can explain in detail – or in a couple of seconds, with Humor or with seriousness, in personal or in General valid words. Depending on, whether friends, family members, colleagues, or just Strangers inquire about my relationship. Because I have learned is almost everyone at some point. I would answer prefer simply: My friend and I, we'll be just like to be alone. However, this response differs clearly from the ideas of an intact relationship, and many will be difficult for people to accept you.

"Living Apart Together" (LAT), so this Relationship is, since the Dutch Journalist Michel Berkiel 1978, for the first time in words, which deeds at that time, some artists and intellectuals couples. Separated living together – that sounds actually quite nice, I think. Around ten percent of all couples in the Western world, should lead a study, according to such a relationship.

However, LAT is also today only as an intermediate stage socially acknowledged. Get to know each other, to kiss for the first Time, a Few and look in the LAT Phase a year or two, whether it's running, maybe even whether you can survive a long-distance relationship. Then you have to look for a shared apartment – it is the logical consequence. The frequently quoted psychotherapist, Wolfgang Krüger said a mirror journalists once: "Who wants to lead a serious relationship, you should move in together."

Updated Date: 22 July 2020, 01:19

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